There comes a time in most young girls' lives when the hormones kick in and they become not so sweet and innocent. Your daughter can be rude to you, to her teachers, and to everyone around her. But, by addressing her rudeness now, you can help your daughter become more mature and polite as she blossoms into a young woman.
Items you will need
- An open heart
Steps to Take
Communicate with your daughter. Ask her if there is anything going on at school or in the home that she is unhappy about. Ask her if this is why she has been acting out against you and others. Once you get to the root of the problem, you can begin to fix it.
Set boundaries. Let your daughter know what will and won’t be tolerated in your home. For example, tell her that you will not put up with screaming, yelling or fighting.
Maintain your role as a parent. Trying to befriend your daughter will not help her resolve her inner conflicts. If you are trying to be a friend to your daughter while setting boundaries within the home, you will only end up confusing her about your role as a parent.
Set age-appropriate punishments for your daughter for when she crosses the line. Be up front about the consequences of specific actions. For example, if she raises her voice toward you in anger, then she will be grounded for two days. Make the consequences for each action very clear.
Be persistent. Don’t back down from your daughter when punishing her. If she is grounded for two days, don’t let her off the hook after just one. Enforcing the entire punishment will be the only way she learns that there are consequences to her actions.
Let it be. If your daughter is being rude and won’t stop no matter how much you punish her for her actions, you may have to back away. Don't get overworked, and let her be. One option may be to send her to her room, where she can think about what has just happened in a quiet place until she is able to communicate with you in a respectful manner.
Reinforce positive behavior. When your daughter has made a positive behavioral change, let her know. Use rewards as reinforcement for good behavior.
- A good reward for making a positive behavioral change might be to take your daughter on a shopping trip to get something she has been wanting to buy.
- Give your daughter time to make positive behavioral changes. She won’t change in one night, and the road may be a frustrating and long one. However, over time, you should see a positive change in your daughter's behavior.
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