Every parent thinks his or her child is special, but you think your child is extra special, and you want her to know you feel that way. If you look for ways to demonstrate how special you know she is, then she might not struggle with self-esteem issues as she gets older, like you did when you were a kid. It also helps her resist peer pressure, enjoy life and experience less conflict.
Your child looks forward to a date night with you and another with dad each month. You don’t have to spend money doing it, because it’s your time he values. Let him help you do things around the house, because he’s your “big helper.” Celebrate ordinary events, such as the first time he tied his shoes or the day he rode his bike without training wheels. Send him things in the mail so he knows he’s important to someone, even if he doesn’t know you are the one sending the mail. Take time every day to have fun with him by reading together, laughing over lunch and spending time together before bed.
Affection is a regular part of your interaction. Sprinkle the day with hugs and kisses, and ask her for more when you need a lift. High-five her when she accomplishes a goal or pat her on the back. Take the time to comb her hair or massage her back. Engage in tickle fights and romps, if she likes those kinds of activities, enjoying the affection you freely share.
When you pay attention to him, he knows he is special. Stop what you’re doing and get down on his level when he comes to talk to you. Remember his special days and add little touches like hiding a new book under his pillow or fixing his favorite meal. Call him if you are out of town and tell him, “I miss you so much. I can’t wait until I get home to be with you.” Display his art or use a craft he has made for you.
Actions might speak louder than words, but don’t spare the words. Let her know you pray for her every day, just like she prays for you. Praise her accomplishments and let her hear you bragging on her. Affirm that she can do anything and has great abilities in various areas. Make your praise sincere and accurate, or it won’t count for anything. Ask questions about her day and tell her things about your day. Tell stories about when she was born and other special events you have shared.
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